happy mothers day! advice from some of my favorite moms

In honor of Mother’s Day this year, I asked some of my favorite moms their motherhood advice. I got the BEST answers! It was a great reminder for me that 1) we’re all just trying to figure it out, 2) everyone parents differently (and there is NO wrong way!) and 3) I have some awesome, funny, smart women in my life! Scroll through and enjoy!

“Don’t overthink it and don’t sweat the small stuff. Because I promise you, a month from now, a year from now, whatever it might be – you won’t even remember it. Relish in the moment and let others think what they want!”
-Mom of a toddler with one on the way

“It’s only been a few weeks but I’ve never known something to be so challenging but magical at the same time. I’ve never put more of my heart and soul into something and gotten the most amazing result. It’s a little part of myself and my husband that we will love unconditionally forever and I always remember that even through all of the poop, pee, spit up and sleepless nights, the snuggles, kisses, smiles and love make it worth it.”
-Mom of a 2 week old!

“A happy mom makes a happy family. It’s so important to take time to do things for yourself that give you joy and fulfillment.”
-Mom of a toddler with one on the way

“You’ll have good days, you’ll have bad days, you’ll have okay days. And guess what? It’s all normal. No one has all of their sh*t together, even if it looks like they do. Surround yourself with women who know this and embrace it.”
-Mom of 2

“Don’t stick up or cover up for your kids when they are wrong. Love them unconditionally but use it as an opportunity to teach them something.”
-Mom of 4, grandma of 12, great-grandma of 6

“Don’t be strict when your little ones want to climb in bed with you to sleep. Just remember they feel safe and loved when they are with you. Embrace it and snuggle them in…one day, not too far away, they will no longer be sleeping in your house.”
-Mom of 2

“People will give you their opinion or advice. You can listen but you know your kids best. Go with your gut.”
-Mom of 4, grandma of 2

“Motherhood is completely and totally beautiful, exhausting, challenging, rewarding, debilitating, exhilarating, fantastic, and sometimes terrible. Your heart will explode one million times from things that make you happier, sadder, and angrier than you could have ever imagined. What it is NOT, is easy. Anyone who acts like it is, is LYING!”
-Mom of 3

“I don’t spank my kids, but you better believe when they act like maniacs, I pull out the wooden spoon and whack it on whatever piece of furniture is near me. Then I tell them “next time, that’s your butt!” Works every time.”
-Mom of 2

“Toddlers can honestly be ridiculous. Even as cute as they are, it’s normal to feel stressed at times! When a “moment” is going down, the best thing I do for myself is breathe, laugh about it and move on knowing this is a phase I’ll miss one day!”
-Mom of a toddler with one on the way

“Always put your children and family first. Work, laundry, dishes, yard work will always be there but your children are only little for a short time. Live in the moment – enjoy the muddy jeans, listening to the same story for the millionths time and brushing gnarls out of hair. At the end of the day, those are the things that truly matter. Show up, be present and love them with all of your might!”
-Mom of 2

“Read to them every day. It is such a special bonding time that opens the door for great conversations.”
-Mom of 2, grandma of 2

“There is an overwhelming amount of information out there but you and your family are unique. Do not try to force something that doesn’t work. Also, always surround yourself with people who love and support you.”
-Mom of a 10 month old

“It can be hard, but don’t compare yourself to other moms. You are the best mom for your baby! Haters gonna hate!”
-Mom of a 6 month old

“Is everyone alive? Then everything is fine. Really. Everything could be momentarily f-ing hideous but overall, everything is fine. Motherhood is about the big picture and big picture, everything is (almost always) fine.”
-Mom of 3

“Remind yourself often that everything is a phase – both heartwarming and trying. Remind yourself this when your child won’t sleep through the night, is throwing a tantrum at target or won’t eat anything you make for dinner. But also remind yourself this when they fall asleep on your chest, when they hold your hand during a walk, and when they want a kiss and hug before they go into school. Some phases are short, some are long, but none last forever.”
-Mom of 2 

“There is no such thing as a perfect parent. But you will always be the most perfect person to parent your child. Parent in a style that is uniquely yours. Some days are going to be complete chaos and you will make mistakes but you just have to roll with it!”
-Mom of a toddler with one on the way

“Motherhood is the greatest gift that one can receive. Forget what needs to be done and cherish your moments with them. You want them to grow up but it’s all too fast.”
-Mom of 3, grandma of 4, great-grandma of 4

“Capture every moment – the good, the bad, the embarrassing and especially the ones that make you laugh. The happy moments will keep you grateful and remind you how lucky you are when your child is throwing a tantrum on the floor screaming. The difficult moments will remind you how strong you are as a mama.”
-Mom of a toddler with one on the way

“LOVE YOUR KIDS! The rest will sort itself out. Yes, you have to make major decisions and guide them and teach them and mold them into wonderful, productive citizens but all of that seems completely overwhelming and impossible when you’re in your 9,000th hour of being cried at. So, if you just make your love for your kids the center of every choice and decision, you’ll never go wrong. Or, when you are wrong, at least you can be comforted by the fact that you had the best intentions!”
-Mom of 3

Happy Mother’s Day!

Some photos by Little bit Perfect, Ashley Sasak Photography and Tess Smith Photography